Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Blow Jobs vs. My Little Pony

So I don't know if you are aware, but my tutoring students tell me that BJ Parties are all the rage. These are girls in the tween to teen ages.
You recall 7 Minutes in Heaven, with the awkward smooching, this is just like that but with non-reciprocated oral sex.

Can you imagine? (Of course you can, Pervert.) When I was in junior high I was still attending sleep overs where we were illicitly watching... don't tell... Dirty Dancing. Considered too racy for us to watch.

I am all about children not being raised to think that sex is dirty, but I can't understand how this came to be common place. Obviously teenagers have sex, but I can't imagine being persuaded to give a blow job at age 12. I wasn't even sexually interested in men at that age.

I've been wondering if sexualized girl-figures like Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera are a symptom of early sexualiztion in girls or a cause. Everyone is craving acceptance, and maybe becoming a dispenser of BJ's make these girls think that they are being desirable or cool?

I just would like any young person reading this know that sex acts should make both partners happy. Sex is reciprocal.

Also you should know that there is such a thing as gonorrhea of the throat, among other dangers.

Jezebel has an article up about the decline in (girl) scouting, which is how I got onto this topic in the first place. The point of which is that Girl Scouts doesn't resonate with our youth today because interests have shifted. (To Cock?)

9 comments:

Noelle said...

horrifying. at that age my friends and i were clandestinely watching pretty woman. our parents rigorously objected.

thanks for the link to the church! am so bored at work today.

cymberleah said...

For what it's worth, I recall my 13 year old friend (I was 14) asking me if she would go to hell for giving a BJ.

So while I agree that it is horrid, it's not all that new. =(

qtilla said...

I assume you told her "yes." :o)

D. Prince said...

I am totally with you!

I think I was married for 2 years before I did that (just kidding but you know what I mean).

Ferretnick said...

Speaking as (I assume to be) the only guy on here so far, this is disturbing on many levels.

As a young, horny teenager this would've seemed awesome to be a recipient of but the reality of it is I was FAR too immature to really know what I was doing (or in this case... not doing).

It would be easy to blame current role models for furthering it, but your'e right.. they could be a product themsleves.

I think it has roots in many areas.
The media wants our dollars, so they'll push the envelope as much as they can currently get away with.
The "P" word wasn't used on television until the Lewinsy Scandal happened, now it's hard to find programs where they don't use the word in conversation at least once a week.

Parents can't control everything their kids are doing and some don't even care, which is self-perpetuating.(Reckless kids grow into careless parents who spawn even less responsible kids and so on...)
If we (as a society) make it seem illicit and fun.. just don't get caught, then kids are going to want to engage in this kind of activity because no one has properly instructed them in what is acceptable and prudent.
14 yr old girls giving out blow jobs to random young boys is not acceptable and prudent. Hell, it's not prudent for a 17 year old in my opinion.

I'm not a prude or uber-conservative type. I think that consensual sex should be just that. Consensual. And recipricating.

This kind of activity breeds so many problems.
Objectivity of women. Low self-esteem for the girls. Lack of respect between partners, which only gets worse as they get older.
Disease... shall I keep going?

I have a 2 yr old niece and a friend who has a 7 yr old daughter and it makes me sick to think that both of these smart, beautiful little girls could be just a few years away from being exposed to this, even if they themselves never get involved in it.

Anyway, that's my 2-cents.

qtilla said...

I don't want to overstate this, but you might be the most awesome person, ever.

I'm just saying.

That is the exact point that I am trying to make to my younger cousins. That sex is not "done" to women. That woman can choose sex or not, and should enjoy sex not "perform sex acts." That sex is dangerous and you should be prepared for the physical, mental, and emotional repercussions.

Other things on the Quiana Curriculum for Young Persons:
1. never give a woman/man your money.
2. condoms. every time.

qtilla said...

Here is another article on a similar topic:

Adult spa treatments becoming common place for little girls in Main Line Philly

Ferretnick said...

Holy cow.
That is a frightnening and sobering article.

qtilla said...

And here is another article about "perfection" standards changing for little girls.

Sweet Valley High reccommends a "prefect size four"